by Lillian Csernica on January 20, 2016
“Then Elisha prayed and said, “O Lord, I pray, open his eyes that he may see.” And the Lord opened the servant’s eyes, and he saw; and behold, the mountain was full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha.” (2 Kings 6:17). All around them, but beyond the capabilities of the five human physical senses, was all the protection necessary. Elisha would be no prisoner that day. His would be captors would be.”
Today I picked up my car. Today I drove it home from the dealership. Today I stopped at the grocery store, I put gas in the car, and I drove home.
I was not afraid. I did not have an anxiety attack. In fact, I was happy and excited.
I have been a prisoner of my own fears about driving for a long time now. Almost thirty years. It’s called learned helplessness, and it’s born of a vicious emotional cycle that includes hopelessness and depression.
Another condition I battle on a daily basis is anticipatory anxiety. This robs the future of hope and positive thinking. I told myself I wasn’t afraid of my driving. I was afraid of everybody else on the road who drove like maniacs, speeding and changing lanes without signalling and coming right up on my rear bumper like they wanted to shove my car aside. That was true enough. I think the real truth was, I could no longer face the responsibility of being the driver.
When I was in the car accident that did in fact kill me, my driving had very little to do with what happened. My employer had assured me he’d replaced the two right tires on the company car, which were worn down to the point of being dangerous. He lied to me. I trusted him, so when we loaded the car that night for the drive from Long Beach to San Francisco, I believed him and I did not check the tires myself.
“Put not your faith in princes and sons of men, in whom there is no salvation. When his breath departs, he returns to the earth; on that very day his plans perish.” (Ps. 146:3-4)
Five years ago I took two sets of driving lessons to brush up on my driving skills. My teacher said I’m a good driver. I have good reaction time and I’m good at judging braking distance. I have driven on Hwy 17 all the way down to Capitola and back in the car with my teacher.
And yet, I still couldn’t internalize that knowledge to the extent that I would agree to pick out a car and drive it. My husband said he’d get me a car, but not until he was sure I would in fact use it, and use it all the time.
Why now? Why did I suddenly stand up last Saturday and say, “Fine. Let’s do it today.”? All I can say is the time was right, and I was ready. We found a car that was everything I wanted, at a price we could afford. It was raining, but I didn’t let that hold me back. I got into the car and I test drove it so my husband could listen to the engine. I was alert, I was focused, and I kept moving forward through the process of evaluating and the buying the car.
My car has become my chariot of fire. Just as Divine Protection was present but unseen for the Prophet Elisha, so I believe God is watching out for me. I may not always have faith in myself, but I do have faith in God. Just look at what we went through this past summer with Michael’s hospital stay. When Michael needed a priest, Fr. Ninos got there before the ICU team took Michael to be prepped for surgery. I still don’t know how Fr. Ninos got there so quickly, but he did, and I give thanks every day that my boy is still alive and healthy.
When the depression has been really bad, I have begged God to help me get better. I have prayed for strength and for courage and for the determination to defeat all the symptoms that have crippled me emotionally, kept me from writing, and prevented me from being a functional member of my family.
“The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom then shall I fear?” (Ps. 12:1)
It’s time to move on. No more thinking I’m helpless. No more being afraid.